Tuesday, October 27, 2009

The Rituals of American Hospital Birth

While doing some research for the birth trauma article, I came across a very interesting article by Robbie E. Davis-Floyd, Ph.Dabout the rituals of hospital birth in America, and the psychological effects it has on women (as well as the staff).

Many know first hand just how traumatic and violating a hospital birth can be. Doctors and other hospital staff attend births day in and day out--and can become desensitized in the process. Women sometimes feel they are treated as a mere compartment for a child to emerge from. Here are a few excerpts from the article that sum this up nicely:

The rising science of obstetrics ultimately accomplished this goal by adopting the model of the assembly-line production of goods as its template for hospital birth. Accordingly, a woman's reproductive tract came to be treated like a birthing machine by skilled technicians working under semiflexible timetables to meet production and quality control demands. As one fourth-year resident observed:
We shave 'em, we prep 'em, we hook 'em up to the IV and administer sedation. We deliver the baby, it goes to the nursery and the mother goes to her room. There's no room for niceties around here. We just move 'em right on through. It's hard not to see it like an assembly line.
The hospital itself is a highly sophisticated technocratic factory; the more technology the hospital has to offer, the better it is considered to be. Because it is an institution, the hospital constitutes a more significant social unit than an individual or a family. Therefore it can require that the birth process conform more to institutional than personal needs. As one resident explained,

There is a set, established routine for doing things, usually for the convenience of the doctors and the nurses, and the laboring woman is someone you work around, rather than with.
The most desirable end-product of the birth process is the new social member, the baby; the new mother is a secondary by-product. One obstetrician commented,
It was what we were all trained to always go after--the perfect baby. That's what we were trained to produce. The quality of the mother's experience--we rarely thought about that.


Many women report feeling a lack of control once they are in the hospital--I know I did.
Routine obstetric procedures are highly symbolic. For example, to be seated in a wheelchair upon entering the hospital, as many laboring women are, is to receive through their bodies the symbolic message that they are disabled; to then be put to bed is to receive the symbolic message that they are sick. Although no one pronounces, "You are disabled; you are sick," such graphic demonstrations of disability and illness can be far more powerful than words. One woman told me:

I can remember just almost being in tears by the way they would wheel you in. I would come into the hospital, on top of this, breathing, you know, all in control. And they slap you in a wheelchair! It made me suddenly feel like maybe I wasn't in control any more.

The intravenous drips commonly attached to the hands or arms of birthing women make a powerful symbolic statement: they are umbilical cords to the hospital. The cord connecting her body to the fluid-filled bottle places the woman in the same relation to the hospital as the baby in her womb is to her. By making her dependent on the institution for her life, the IV conveys to her one of the most profound messages of her initiation experience: in American society, we are all dependent on institutions for our lives. The message is even more compelling in her case, for she is the real giver of life. Society and its institutions cannot exist unless women give birth, yet the birthing woman in the hospital is shown, not that she gives life, but rather that the institution does.

The article talks about how women are repetitively being told--without words--that they are dependent on the  hospital:  the often awkward and  exposing hospital gown, the ID bracelet, IV, the bed, etc. 

The message that she is "defective" is also conveyed to her, that her body needs help to birth a baby.



She is also reminded in myriad ways of the potential defectiveness of her birthing machine. These include periodic and sometimes continuous electronic monitoring of that machine, frequent manual examinations of her cervix to make sure that it is dilating on schedule, and, if it isn't, administration of the synthetic hormone pitocin to speed up labor so that birth can take place within the required 26 hours. All three of these procedures convey the same messages over and over: time is important, you must produce on time, and you cannot do that without technological assistance because your machine is defective.
...Consider the visual and kinesthetic images that the laboring woman experiences--herself in bed, in a hospital gown, staring up at an IV pole, bag, and cord, and down at a steel bed and a huge belt encircling her waist. Her entire sensory field conveys one overwhelm-ing message about our culture's deepest values and beliefs: technology is supreme, and the individual is utterly dependent upon it.
...Internalizing the technocratic model, women come to accept the notion that the female body is inherently defective. This notion then shapes their perceptions of the labor experience, as exemplified by one woman's story:
It seemed as though my uterus had suddenly tired! When the nurses in attendance noted a contraction building on the recorder, they instructed me to begin pushing, not waiting for the urge to push, so that by the time the urge pervaded, I invariably had no strength remaining but was left gasping and dizzy....I felt suddenly depressed by the fact that labor, which had progressed so uneventfully up to this point, had now become unproductive.
Note that she does not say "The nurses had me pushing too soon," but "My uterus had tired," and labor had "become unproductive." These responses reflect her internalization of the technocratic tenet that when something goes wrong, it is her body's fault.



 Many families seem comforted by hospital rituals. They welcome the interventions,  feel safer with them and put more faith in the machines than their own bodies. Some women opt for elective cesarean sections or prefer them to vaginal birth because of the "control" factor, fear of the pain from a vaginal birth or countless other reasons. Others may find this hard to understand--a major surgery is not scary? How and why would anyone ever choose that over a vaginal  birth--a natural process? The article explains this well, how people tend to conform to rituals--no matter how absurd it may seem--in times of stress.







When humans are subjected to extremes of stress and pain, they may become unreasonable and out of touch with reality. Ritual assuages this condition by giving people a conceptual handle-hold to keep them from "falling apart" or "losing it." When the airplane starts to falter, even passengers who don't go to church are likely to pray! Ritual mediates between cognition and chaos by making reality appear to conform to accepted cognitive categories. In other words, to perform a ritual in the face of chaos is to restore order to the world.
Labor subjects most women to extremes of pain, which are often intensified by the alien and often unsupportive hospital environment. They look to hospital rituals to relieve the distress resulting from their pain and fear. They utilize breathing rituals taught in hospital-sponsored childbirth education classes for cognitive stabilization. They turn to drugs for pain relief, and to the reassuring presence of medical technology for relief from fear. One woman expressed it this way:
I was terrified when my daughter was born. I just knew I was going to split open and bleed to death right there on the table, but she was coming so fast, they didn't have any time to do anything to me...I like Caesarean sections, because you don't have to be afraid.
When you come from within a belief system, its rituals will comfort and calm you. Accordingly, those women in my study who were in basic agreement with the technocratic model of birth before going into the hospital (70%) expressed general satisfaction with their hospital births.

The institution that is the hospital is overwhelming. If women who want to birth there, who find a hospital birth inviting or optimal give themselves over in such a huge way upon arrival--imagine what it does to women that don't  feel that way.


Unfortunately, many of us know that all too well.



Monday, October 26, 2009

Busy

For the past week I have been working on an article on birth trauma for the AIMS journal (Association for Improvements in Maternity Services).  It is a publication based in the UK. The editor contacted me and of course I agreed. I hope to have it totally finished for tomorrow.

Of course when it's published I will post a link!

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Sad news

I just found out tonight that a very good old friend of mine is dying from liver cancer. She is 34 years old. She has a young son, who is 13. I am heartbroken. I can't even imagine what she and her family are going through.

We used to work together back when I lived in New York. We were instant friends. She was by far the sweetest, kindest person I had ever had the pleasure of meeting - to this date. She was always willing to lend a hand, an ear, or a shoulder.

She loves her son so much - he is her world. When we were together she would constantly talk about him. Then, thinking I was 5 years younger than her and childless, she would say,"I'm sorry I talk about him all the time. You are probably sick of it". I told her "No" every time. And I wasn't. I never had a mother who was very close to me, and seeing the love and close relationship she had with her son was amazing to witness. It was the type of relationship I knew wanted with my future children.

After working with her for two years, I yet again moved away. We kept in contact by phone and email for a while. We were still in touch up until about a year and a half ago. Then, life just happened. It got busier, moving again, pregnant again, raising two kids.. and I am sure it was busy for her as well.

After her diagnosis two months ago, she and her son moved from Connecticut and in with her parents in Oklahoma. She wants to die there. She knows her son will be okay there.

So, here I sit with a phone number. I want to call, but I'm afraid. My friend who told me the news says when she tries to call, she is often too sick to talk. I don't know what to do. I want to talk to her, say good bye, but the phone just seems so.. cold and distant. I want to be there in person. I don't know what to say over the phone. What do I do? I want to say good bye..

Monday, October 19, 2009

To Whom it May Concern

This was a response to someone who emailed me about my site today. This person, like many before them, insisted that my site was nothing but "negativity", making people feel victimized, we (those who feel the same way I do) are not good role models for our children, full of useless information... just to name a few.

I responded. Consider this an open letter to those who agree with said person above:

To Whom it May Concern,

My site isn't about feeling negativity. It's about HEALING. Part of
healing and working through problems is talking to others, getting
those feelings out through means of expression. This site is dedicated
to these women, and men. We are not here to please anybody else, to
fit into anyone's neat, pretty package of how we should deal with
trauma and disappointment. And this DOES make people feel better. I 

receive emails from both men and women often, about how this
has made them work through their grief, or have even started or joined
organizations. In fact, those emails far outnumber emails like yours.

My life is nothing like this site. I am not sitting there, hair in my
face, depressed and moping around through life. Though I am very proud

of my site and it means a lot to me and others, it is merely a
fragment of who I am. Same with many others that posted their stories.

I am not fueling those who feel victimized.  I, as well as others like
me, are proactive in the birth community. I am heading a  campaign in
my state, advocating to change the appalling state of maternity care.
I know of many others who are also members of other various
organizations. We are not helpless victims - we are fighting back. I
would call this "positive thinking" as you called it -  wouldn't you?

Of course we sound angry. Many of us were lied to, coerced or even
forced to have cesareans. Then told it was "no big deal".  Not to
mention the treatment some received was nothing short of disgusting
and infuriating. You wonder why we are angry?

It's wrong that some can talk positively about their cesareans, or
even gush about them, but as soon as someone shows any negativity -
it's "selfish" and we need to stop being so negative. Why? Does it make

some uncomfortable? It's sad that other women - even ones who feel
their traumatic birth was a direct result of doctor or staff - feel
divided and tell us that we need to shut up. We need to just take it
and move on. We never allow anyone to take advantage of us, lie to us
or violate us in other parts of our lives, nor would we expect someone
to just drop it, yet it's suddenly different when it comes to birth.

My site opens people's eyes. I wish I had come across something like
it when I was pregnant with my first child.  No one likes to talk
about the current state of obstetrics, the sky high cesarean and
induction rates, rising maternal mortality rates... but people are
starting to, and hopefully the tide will change soon.

I am a good role model for my children. I am showing them you don't
just sit back and take abuse. You don't just let people lie to you. I
show them to always ask questions. Never just accept something because

everyone thinks you should. I show them to not be afraid to express
their feelings. Ever. That's what this site is about too.

Though you don't agree with me and what I am about, I am glad that my

site made you react. That's what I want. Why sugarcoat it? It
happened. It's out there. It's real. Like it or not.



Sincerely,
Me and Many Others Like Me


Saturday, October 17, 2009

The C - Section Backlash

The Daily Beast c-section article I was interviewed for is finally up. I think it's a great article. It talks about fighting for VBAC's,  as is the recent case with Joy Szabo , and the emotional toll c-sections can take on women.

You can find the full article here.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Birth Advocates Training







Suzanne Arms of the non-profit organization Birthing the Future is holding birth advocates training at Laurel Springs Retreat Center in Santa Barbara, CA next month. Vanessa Simons and Brenda Korbecki  are selected to attend, but they need your sponsorship.

Let's help them make their goal!


Sunday, October 11, 2009

Birth Trauma is real

A while back I wrote about how women who have had wedding day disasters are given more sympathy (not to mention numerous TV appearances) than women who have suffered a traumatic birth. Why? Why is it taboo to talk about being upset and/or traumatized about your birth experience? 


If the wedding was a disaster, be it a torn dress or a medical emergency, does everyone tell the newlywed to just be thankful they are married? After all, even though they planned the wedding for months, invested lots of time and money into it and were anticipating it, they got the end result they wished to achieve - marriage. There should be no reason to dwell on any upsetting or traumatic events. After all, it's just a means to an end.  The moment they got married would  - and should - erase any prior upsetting events. Right?  I doubt it.  So why are women who share with others their feelings about disappointing or traumatic births told they should just "be thankful"? Why are they told that the process of birth doesn't matter, it's just a means to an end? Is it because they have the healthy baby?


Ah, yes. That's it. The healthy baby.


Women who have had traumatic births (and I am not just talking c-sections here) have heard this line countless times.  Having had a traumatic birth myself, I am often told how selfish I am. I've been called childish, cold, ignorant, sad, ridiculous, crazy... the list is long. 


Why have we been told that a healthy baby is all that matters? Is it really all that matters? Does the mother not matter? 


If you think mothers don't matter - tell that to the newborn baby. The baby that has a mother unable to breastfeed due to complications from surgery, or depressed and traumatized about her birth and it affects her mothering, a baby whose mother who has been separated from them for hours after surgery or a baby who is the NICU attached to machines all day long and unable to breastfeed, to be held by their mother, unable to start the bonding process, or a baby whose mother dies giving birth.


Oh, but that's when mothers matter? After we are no longer here? Death is the magic line we draw in the sand for when mothers finally start to matter.


When someone survives a horrible car accident, where other people die, how do we treat them and their trauma? When they need to work through the trauma of the accident, and survivors guilt, do we say to them,"all that matters is you are alive. You should be thankful."  Or throw in a few anecdotes: "I know someone who lost their daughter/son in a car accident, you should quit being so selfish and just be happy you are here". How dismissive it that? 


Those suffering from birth trauma hear those words often. 


Of course the car accident survivors are thankful they are alive. That doesn't need to be said. They have lived through trauma and it's only natural and healthy that they begin to work through it. It's normal for this event to be significant and shape the rest of their life.


Why is birth trauma any different? 


If I am not being told I should shut up and be thankful for my healthy baby, I am getting anecdotes about how someone's baby died or is severely handicapped, so how dare I express my feelings about my birth experience. Just because a woman has a live or healthy baby (and many traumatic births aren't necessarily life and death emergencies to begin with) doesn't mean she isn't thankful. The birth experience and the baby are two separate things. Hating a birth experience is not hating your baby. It's the process of how that baby got here. And in this day and age, many of the interventions and protocols involved in birth are in and of themselves traumatizing, not to mention unnecessary.


Birth is an important event in a womans' life. It is a transforming experience - good or bad. It can be amazingly powerful, peaceful and blissful, but it can also be violating, terrifying, and demeaning. Because they survived, or their baby survived, doesn't make it any less traumatic for them. Trauma is relative and is not black and white. To say to someone who has had a traumatic birth that she just needs to be thankful for a live baby is damaging and dismissive, maybe it makes you look like the childish, cold, ignorant, sad, ridiculous, and crazy one.









Friday, October 9, 2009

Checking in

First of all - what the hell happened to summer? The leaves are falling off of the trees. I love autumn (favorite time of year) but I can't believe It's getting colder already. I love the holidays, but I am in shock that they are already headed our way again. It feels like just yesterday I was pregnant with Hannah and we were taking Mason Trick or Treating for the first time.


I have not been blogging very much lately. I have been spending most of my time on BirthCut and CT Worst to First. And Twitter, my new addiction.


Not much else going on in my neck of the woods. Damn, is my life that boring? It sure as hell doesn't seem like it day to day when I am flat out exhausted by sundown - or right after the high from my umpteenth cup of coffee wears off.


Dammit, something exciting happen to me already!


I haven't blogged about it yet, but Jason has been creating his own software, and hopes to start his own business. He is in the final stages - we are both getting really excited and a little hopeful about it. Sometimes I am blown away at how intelligent and driven he is. He made his own software sitting at our kitchen table, working into the wee hours and still got up at night to help me with Hannah. I love that man.


As for Worst to First, we weren't too happy with the meeting attendance. Our next meeting is scheduled for November -  hopefully we will have more of a following then. We are quickly finding out that birth advocacy in CT sucks. We are actually thinking about switching gears and making this more of a national campaign at the start. The Executive Director of NARAL Connecticut is very interested in working with us. We are thinking of maybe going more of a womens' right angle. Since NARAL advocates for a womans' right to choose, we feel maternity care will fit nicely into that. 


The article I was interviewed for won't be out for a little while longer. The editor wanted her to add more to it - how the birth trauma support groups are growing in number. She will be calling me in the next day or two to talk a little more. I really can't wait to read it though. 


Well, for now, that's all folks.